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By Jeff Bezanson<\/a><\/strong>
Executive Managing Director
<\/em>Pathstone
<\/em>jbezanson@pathstone.com<\/a><\/p>\n

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Family Enterprise USA members represent the backbone of the American economy. Family-owned and multigenerational businesses create jobs, sustain communities, and steward capital across decades\u2014not quarters. As family wealth grows in complexity, a common question often emerges: Should we build a family office?<\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n

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A family office can be a powerful enabler of a family\u2019s vision and goals if it is designed intentionally, evolves with the family, and aligns with what success truly means to the family. Too often, families build a family office without taking into account key considerations and understanding potential consequences. The result can be \u00a0unnecessary complexity, misaligned services, inflexibility or inertia and potential family or personal conflict that distracts from the very outcomes the family is trying to protect.<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n

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At Pathstone<\/a><\/span>, we see this dynamic regularly. And we see similar pitfalls arise when families move too quickly\u2014or without clarity.<\/p>\n

Pitfall #1: An Unclear Purpose<\/strong><\/h4>\n

A misstep we occasionally see families make is building a family office without a shared definition of why<\/em> it exists. Often, the office is oriented around past needs\u2014liquidity events, a founder\u2019s preferences, or a narrow investment focus\u2014even as the family itself has evolved.<\/p>\n

Without a clear purpose, services might be added reactively, boosting costs or not serving the family\u2019s needs when they arise. Generations may expect different outcomes. And strategic disagreements can become personal.<\/p>\n

A family office should not exist to preserve history; it should exist to support the family\u2019s preferred life today and tomorrow<\/em>. Before building one, families should align on what success looks like, agreeing on factors such as control, simplicity, education, governance, impact, or continuity. If that clarity doesn\u2019t exist, creating a family office infrastructure might just amplify misalignment in the family.<\/p>\n

Pitfall #2: A Structure That No Longer Fits<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Even when the purpose is clear, structure often lags reality. Families may grow in size, generations, geography, and complexity but keep an operating model that reflects how things used to be, not how they are now. Whether one uses a for-profit interest structure, a private trust company, or another model, the structure should reflect the current and future family needs and interests, not prior needs.<\/p>\n

We have seen legal structures (or lack thereof) that don\u2019t fit current needs, layers added over time without revisiting overall design, outsourced functions without oversight, and operating models that are expensive but inflexible. We\u2019ve also seen family offices become harder to manage than the wealth they were meant to serve.<\/p>\n

For many FEUSA members, the right answer may\u2014or may not<\/em>\u2014be to build a stand-alone family office. It may be about adopting services that are supportive of family and office needs while accessing institutional-quality capabilities through a flexible, integrated partner. Structure should scale with the family and help solve for current and future ambitions\u2014not create inertia or support outdated assumptions.<\/p>\n

Pitfall #3: Capabilities That Don\u2019t Match Expectations<\/strong><\/h4>\n

A family office is often expected to wear many hats: investment management, tax planning, reporting, governance, education, philanthropy, and risk management. But expectations may exceed capabilities.<\/p>\n

Ad hoc staffing, fragmented systems, and person-dependent knowledge create challenges in oversight and lack of a clear view. This situation can result in increased operational risk.<\/p>\n

Families should ask: Do we want to manage people, processes, and technology\u2014or outcomes?<\/em><\/p>\n

Pitfall #4: Unclear Decision-Making<\/strong><\/h4>\n

When roles are not clearly defined, important decisions can become slow, emotional, or repeatedly revisited. Governance gaps can erode trust, particularly across generations.<\/p>\n

A well-designed family office supports disciplined decision-making. Clarity around who decides, how decisions are informed, and how disagreements are resolved is essential before<\/em> infrastructure is built. This may prevent delays, confusion, frustration, erosion of trust over time, and emotional decisions.<\/p>\n

Pitfall #5: Avoiding Transitions<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Having conversations about succession, leadership, and ownership can be challenging. How should one get started? Is there a clear vision of what transition looks like? Has it been co-created? Can a family create the time and space to do so? How would a third party be useful in creating preferred outcomes or minimizing potential friction? We have observed that planning often begins after a triggering event\u2014or not at all.<\/p>\n

When transitions aren\u2019t discussed, families lose the long-term owner mindset that made the business successful in the first place. A family office may or may not be able to resolve these questions; however, it can act as a resource, shepherd the process, and support an intentional, thoughtful and co-created transition plan.<\/p>\n

How Should You Structure Your Family Office?<\/strong><\/h4>\n

For many family business owners, the better question is not whether to build or modify a family office, but rather what is the purpose of the wealth, what would be the purpose of the office, who would it serve, and why? A family office is not a milestone; it is an evolving resource to provide preferred outcomes. When the why<\/em>, the who<\/em>, and the what<\/em> are solved for, the how<\/em> can then be thoughtfully explored:<\/p>\n